Author: Jessica Lowe

We have all been there. You are sitting on the couch next to your guy. You know his favorite pizza topping. You know his shoe size. You even know which side of the bed he prefers. Suddenly you realize you have no idea what his dream superpower is. Date nights can fall into a routine. Scrolling through social media side by side is not bonding. You want to unlock new layers without making him feel like he is in a job interview. That is where a good game of 21 questions comes in. Asking the right questions sparks curiosity. It…

Last Tuesday, my partner and I sank into the couch after a brutal work day. We stared at our phones for two straight hours in complete silence. The only sound was the dog snoring on the rug. I looked over and realized I had nothing left in my brain to say. We were completely out of conversation. It felt like we had already talked about everything under the sun. We have all been there. You love your guy, but sometimes quiet evenings turn into boring routines. You want to connect, but asking about his workday feels like an interview. That…

We have all been there, staring at our phone like it just spoke a foreign language. You type out a message, delete it, and retype it three times. Then you hit send and immediately regret your life choices. Waiting for a reply feels like waiting for rain in a drought. Why is getting a text back so hard sometimes? The truth is, boring texts get boring responses. A plain “Hey” or “How was your day” gives him nothing to work with. You need a spark to get the fire going. That is where I come in. I have tested the…

We have all been there. You are sitting on the couch with your new guy, and suddenly the conversation hits a wall. You want to skip the boring small talk, but you also do not want to sound like a detective during an interrogation. I once asked a guy his opinion on deep dish pizza, and somehow we ended up arguing for an hour about Chicago versus New York style. It was chaotic, but it totally broke the ice! Getting to know a new boyfriend should feel like a fun game, not a job interview. You want to uncover his…

You are three months in, and he is perfect. He brings you iced coffee. He remembers your dog’s birthday. Then he drops a casual comment about moving to Alaska to build log cabins. Suddenly, your brain short circuits. We have all been there, staring at our phones and wondering if we are building a future with a guy who secretly wants a completely different life. Planning a future together is scary, but guessing is worse. You do not need a three hour interrogation with a polygraph. You just need the right prompts to figure out if you two are actually…

You are sitting on the couch together. You have been dating for months. You look at him and realize you still do not know his favorite childhood memory. You know his favorite pizza topping. You know his boss annoys him. But what actually makes him tick? We have all been there. You get stuck in a routine of asking how his day was. It gets boring fast. I once asked my ex what he would do in a zombie apocalypse just to break the silence. He gave me a forty minute detailed survival plan. It was hilarious and taught me…

We have all been there. You are sitting on the couch with your guy. The TV is playing in the background. You look over and realize you have run out of things to talk about. My guy and I once spent forty minutes arguing about whether a soup is a drink. It was funny, but I knew I needed better material. Standard questions get standard answers. If you ask him how his day went, you will get a fine or good. That is boring. You want to unlock the fun side of his brain. You want the deep thoughts, the…

Picture this. You are sitting on the couch on a Friday night. You both have spent the last twenty minutes scrolling through Netflix. You ask what he wants to eat. He says he does not care. Sound familiar? I have definitely been there. I once spent an entire evening arguing over tacos versus sushi while we both stared at our phones. It was not exactly a night to remember. Routine happens to the best of us. But a boring night in does not mean the spark is gone. Sometimes you just need the right spark to light up the room.…

You are sitting on your couch, watching TV, and your boyfriend is sitting right next to you. But he is staring at his phone. You are staring at yours. Sound familiar? We have all been there. Relationships get comfortable, which is great, but comfortable can easily slide into boring. That is where a little intentional flirting comes in. I once tried to spice things up by sending a super flirty text while my guy was across the room. He read it, looked up, squinted, and asked if I accidentally sent it to the wrong person. Total buzzkill, right? But once…

Picture this. You are sitting on the couch on a Tuesday night. Your boyfriend is next to you, completely absorbed in scrolling through videos of people making tiny miniature food. You look at him and realize you have not had a real, exciting conversation in days. We have all been there. Relationships get comfortable, and comfortable can get a little boring. Last week, I asked my guy what his ultimate fantasy was, expecting something wild. He looked me dead in the eye and said, “An eight hour nap with no alarm.” Romance is clearly thriving! That is why you need…