Author: Jessica Lowe

So you’re sitting there with your laptop open, a half-eaten pint of ice cream melting on the coffee table, wondering if pouring your heart out on paper is genius or pure insanity. I’ve been there. I once spent three hours crafting a letter to an ex, complete with quotes I thought were profound (they weren’t), only to realize vulnerability isn’t about sounding poetic. It’s about being real. Here’s the thing about writing vulnerable letters after a breakup. They’re not magic spells to get him back. They’re for closure, honesty, and sometimes just getting the mess in your head onto paper.…

So you’re ending things and you don’t want to be cruel about it. I once wrote a breakup text that autocorrected “respect” to “reject” and honestly, it somehow made the whole thing worse. Breakups are hard enough without sounding like a robot or a villain. You want to be kind, clear, and real. These breakup notes hit that sweet spot between honest and compassionate. They help you exit with grace while still honoring what you shared. No dramatic speeches. No blame games. Just authentic words that let someone down gently. Whether it’s been three dates or three months, you deserve…

So you’ve reached that weird post-breakup phase. You know the one. Where you’re pretty sure the relationship is over, but you still have his Netflix login and half your stuff is at his place. I once sent my ex a breakup text that autocorrected “care about you” to “care about yew” and honestly, the tree pun perfectly captured how awkward I felt. Breaking up doesn’t have to mean burning bridges. Sometimes you want to end things with grace, kindness, and maybe a little dignity left intact. These thoughtful messages are for when you want to close the door gently instead…

So there I was, three years deep into a relationship that had been dead for six months, drafting my tenth version of a breakup text. One said “It’s not you, it’s me.” Another went full essay mode with a thesis statement. I deleted them all and went with “This isn’t working anymore. I’m done.” His response? “Finally. I was waiting for you to say it.” Turns out, clarity is kind. Breaking up over text isn’t always tacky. Sometimes it’s the safest, smartest move. Whether you’ve had three dates or three months together, you deserve a clean exit. These direct breakup…

I once spent three hours drafting a breakup text. Three hours! I deleted it 47 times. I added emojis, removed them, rewrote it in all caps (briefly lost my mind), and finally sent something that felt human. Breaking up over text isn’t ideal, but sometimes it’s necessary. Maybe you’ve only been dating a few weeks. Maybe distance makes an in-person talk impossible. Maybe you need to prioritize your safety. Whatever the reason, you deserve a script that lets you exit with dignity. Here’s the thing. A good breakup text isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being honest without being cruel.…

Last month, I sat next to my friend while she typed, deleted, and retyped the same breakup text seventeen times. She wanted to end things with a guy she’d been seeing for two months, but every draft sounded either too mean or too wishy-washy. Sound familiar? Breaking up over text isn’t ideal, but sometimes it’s the right call. Maybe you’ve only been on a few dates. Maybe he’s giving you the ick and you can’t fake it anymore. Maybe you’re just not feeling it and dragging it out would be worse. The trick is being clear without being cruel. You…

Picture this. You’re curled up on the couch, ice cream in hand, mascara smudged, and your brain is stuck on repeat. “Should I text him?” “What did I do wrong?” “Will I ever feel normal again?” I’ve been there. We all have. That post-breakup fog where everything feels heavy and you’re desperately Googling “how to move on” at 2 AM. Here’s the thing. Letting go isn’t about forgetting overnight or pretending you’re fine. It’s about finding the right words to soothe yourself when your thoughts spiral. These calm, grounding phrases are like little lifeboats when you feel like you’re drowning.…

Last month, I sat in my car for 20 minutes, staring at my phone like it was a bomb. I needed to end things with a guy I’d been seeing. He was sweet, just not my person. I typed and deleted about 47 different messages. Too harsh. Too vague. Too much like a breakup via carrier pigeon. Finally, I sent something honest and kind, and you know what? He thanked me for being direct. No drama, no ghosting, just two adults parting ways with dignity. Breaking things off doesn’t have to be messy or mean. Whether you’re ending a casual…

I once dated a guy who thought “adventure” meant trying a new brand of cereal. We were together for six months. By month four, I knew I was done. But did I say anything? Nope. I sat there eating organic cornflakes in silence. I finally ended it over a very long, very messy phone call that involved me crying about a toaster. It was a disaster. If I had just been honest and sent a clear text weeks earlier, I would have saved us both a lot of heartache and some very expensive bread. We have all been there. You…

We have all been there. You are sitting on your couch with a half-eaten bag of chips. You are staring at your phone like it is a ticking time bomb. You like this guy. Or at least you did three weeks ago. Now, the thought of putting on real pants to go see him feels like a chore. I once went on a date with a guy who spent forty minutes explaining the history of salt. Salt! I realized right then that I could never look at a shaker again without feeling bored. I wanted to end it, but I…